Recently I got the opportunity to do a question and answer session with one of my favourite bondage guys: Matt (aka Gagfanatic on the internet). I've never really seen a bondage interview before but I thought this would be a fun thing to do and I was definitely not disappointed. Thanks Matt! :)
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Oh hey there :)
KYMS: Hey handsome, how's things? Thank you for taking the time to answer some questions for my blog.
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GF: Thank you for asking me. I enjoy talking about my favourite hobby. Ironically, you can't shut me up when I'm talking about gags.
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| 'Yep on closer inspection you are definitely going nowhere!' |
KYMS: Me either! So tell me how you first got into bondage? Can you remember the exact moment and how did it make you feel?
GF: I remember watching an old gangster movie on television when I was quite young and getting excited during a scene where a guy was tied up and gagged. I wish I could find that movie. I also remember always wanting to play cops and robbers or cowboys and Indians and tying my playmates up with my jump rope.
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| Young cowboy in the wrong place at the wrong time. |
KYMS: I'd like to know what movie that was too! A lot of bondage lovers keep a scrap book or similar when they're growing up. Did you ever do this?
GF: I didn't have a scrapbook, but I did have my Hardy Boys books. When we got a VCR I made a video scrapbook of bondage scenes from TV shows.
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| This swimmer would have been better off being caught by sharks :) |
KYMS: Tell us about your first bondage experience. How was it set up?
GF: My first "real" bondage experience was with my first boyfriend in college. We both had roommates, so we rented a hotel room for our first time having sex. I had never mentioned the fact that I was into bondage before, but after we did the vanilla stuff I turned to him in bed and said, "Hey, can I tie you up?" He said yes, I tore up one of the bedsheets, and tied him spread-eagle to the bed. I loved it, he loved it, but the hotel people probably didn't love the destroyed bed sheet.
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| My kinda hostage! |
KYMS: I bet haha! You have been described as a 'bondage rockstar' in some corners due to your IML exploits. Do you agree with that description and how does it make you feel? How many guys have you tied up at IML if you were to guess?
GF: I feel very flattered by that description of course, especially since I know who originated the term, and he's a bona fide bondage rockstar. Flattered as I am, I don't think of myself as a rock star because I don't love the limelight. I've met guys before who are "famous" in the bondage community, and a lot of them had attitudes, and acted surprised/insulted if I didn't know who they were.
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| The predator has caught his prey. |
Due to the fact that I'm a huge nerd, I don't have to guess how many guys I tied up at IML, I kept a list. At the last IML I attended I tied up 16 guys in 31 sessions. I only got about 12 hours of sleep the entire four-day weekend.
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| 3 down...28 to go? |
KYMS: Wow that's a lot! I'm jealous! Speaking of IML; tell us about these bondage parties that happen. How do you set these up?
GF: I only attended one actual party, at my first IML. I was invited by a guy who wanted me to tie him and a friend of his at the party, and I ended up tying up a couple of other guys while I was there. The most I've ever had in my room at one time is four guys. It's more like a bondage dinner party, a small intimate gathering. I think four guys is about all I can handle on my own. I learned that the best way to set things up is to go with the flow, and not to expect things to go as planned. Sometimes setting up meetings with guys falls through, not just at IML, but, in many cases, an even hotter bondage hookup happens instead.
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| Twinsies! |
KYMS: One of the reasons I've always liked you is that you're a gag lover like me. What do you think is the perfect way to gag a guy?
GF: I really can't answer that. It's like asking what's my favorite type of gag. There are so many, I can't choose one. I like every type of gag there is, and depending on what effect I want, I use different kinds. My default gag is a layered gag of seven to eight bandannas, starting with a cleave-gag and progressively getting thicker until I finish off with an OTM gag or an OTN gag if the guy can handle it. That's another consideration, what the sub can handle. Some guys can take a few bandannas, some guys can take sweat socks in the mouth, 20 bandannas, half a roll of duct tape, and a yard-long piece of cloth to finish everything off.
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| Now that's a man's gag! |
KYMS: Speaking of roles: You're a bondage top. A lot of guys seem to be subs or switches. At what point did you realise you liked to be the guy doing the tying up as opposed to the guy being tied up?
GF: Before I started tying guys up, I would always identify with the captor when I would read a story or watch something that had bondage. As I mentioned before, the first real bondage I did was with my first boyfriend, and since I was the one who suggested it, it just seemed natural that I should be the one who did the tying. That being said, I'm not a total bondage top. There are times when I like to be tied and gagged, but since as you said a lot of guys are subs or switches (and most switches I've met are 99% sub) it made it difficult to find someone to tie me up. Finding a guy who liked to tie guys up, who knew what he was doing, and who I could trust to tie me up was a challenge.
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| These hostages vowed to stick together but this was ridiculous ;) |
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| This is what happens when you knock on a door to ask for directions. Use Google Maps next time fella! |
KYMS: We're a small community brought together by the internet. Are there any other bondage guys that you really admire or like?
GF: Besides you, of course, there are a lot of guys that I admire and like. I don't want to list them all because I'm afraid I would leave someone out. A lot of the guys I like the most, even ones that I have never met, are the ones who have the same obsession with gags like I do. I also like guys who don't take themselves, or bondage too seriously. By that I mean that when we're playing, we're serious about it, but afterward, we can relate to each other like human beings.
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| 'Take a nap and save your strength. You're gonna need it for round two!' |
KYMS: Yes that's very important to me as well. What are you like away from the bondage world? What do you like to do? How would you describe yourself?
GF: I'm a big nerd. I enjoy reading, writing, composing music, watching public television, playing board games. I'm very laid-back and easygoing also, not the strict, controlling guy I am when I have a guy tightly bound and gagged. I'm not good at describing myself, but someone once described me as "the boy next door with a hint of evil" which I thought was pretty apt.
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| All subs need an authoritative hand once in a while. |
KYMS: Once again thanks for taking the time to answer my questions. This was a lot of fun!
GF: Yes it was! I find it interesting to talk about the subject of bondage on an intellectual level. Of course, talking about it always makes me want to do it too!
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| Rock-a-by hostage on the tree top... |
You can contact Matt on most sites under the name gagfanatic. Go and show him some love as he's one of my favourite bondage guys :)
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